Recently I have been talking back and forth with a sweet precious friend of mine via email about a project we are working on together. I realized that I hadn't asked her thoughts about something before I decided to go in a slightly different direction with it. I thought I totally upset and offended her! Her last email to me totally got me. She replied to me, " I am so NOT offended. .. Life is way to short to be offended." Um, wow. I absolutely LOVED that. I think I might 'shirt that'. What a fantastic thing to remember.
Always assume the best in people. That's what she did with me. I will be the first to admit, I don't always walk around assuming the best in people. Offenses look different sometimes but act in similar ways. For kids it might be, "Why didn't they invite me to the birthday party? Why didn't she ask me to play? For adults it might look a little different, "Why didn't she message me back? Why didn't they invite me to the girls trip? Why didn't they invite me to brunch? Why didn't she "like" my post today? Why didn't she wave at me in the car pool line?
Why am I sometimes easily offended? Maybe because I am running so dry spiritually and so I am hungry for someone else to fill me up. When they disappoint me, offend me, my flesh wants to fool me into thinking "See, you were right about that person. I knew they would let you down." Do you see the common word that is used over and over so far? The word 'M, ME, ME'. When we are so preoccupied with 'ME' and focused on others filling ME up, we will be disappointed and we will be offended every time. What if we took our focus off of 'ME' and instead placed our focus on God? After all, its not about ME anyway. Its all about Him and how HE fills me up. I can guarantee He won't let you down. I love this quote by Lysa TerKuerst that says, "With the fullness of God, we are free to let humans be humans-fickle and fragile and forgetful." Fullness. I love just love that word.
The truth is, most people aren't walking around just waiting to offend you. More often than not, most people are so busy with their own lives that they certainly aren't making decisions based on hurting you. Most likely, they are making decision for themselves or for what is best for their families.
The Bible tells us to turn the other cheek (Matthew 5:39) and to forgive those who offend us (Colossians 3:12-14). I know its not easy, but its so important. In some situations, turning the other cheek might look like praying for the offender and forgiving them, and praying to let the hurt go. Sometimes we need to acquire the ability to ignore others comments and block out their hurtful words and actions as a way protecting ourselves. In Matthew 10:14, even Jesus told His disciples to shake the dust from their feet and move on if they weren't welcome in town. How many times have we felt unwelcomed and offended? Maybe we should walk in the way Colossians 3:14 says to walk- " Therefore, as God's chose people, holy and dearly loved, clothes yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues, put on love, which binds them all in perfect unity."
So, next time you feel offended, put on your coat of love, walk away, and exchange that big box of bitterness for a full box of grace. Life is too short to be offended.
(Journal 5): Write down 5 things that you are grateful for today. DONE.
Here are a 5 under-rated exercises that you should be doing!
1) Pushups: The pushup is one of the best upper-body exercises. It’s a must-do to exercise and you can do them anywhere! Push-ups strengthen your shoulders, target your chest and engages your core!
2) Plank: Planks build your core and trains you to keep your torso stable against a variety of forces (essential for avoiding injuries). To do the exercise correctly, make sure to activate your core and spine and push through the floor to engage your shoulders.
3) Bear Crawl: The crawl is a fundamental exercise that builds great movement patterns and targets the muscles deep inside your core. As a warmup, it’ll open your joints; as a finisher, it’ll improve your conditioning in a safe environment.
How to do it: Get on all fours with your hands under your shoulders and your knees under your hips; keep your knees an inch above the ground. Crawl forward by taking a small step with your right arm and left leg at the same time and alternate. Keep your hips low and your head up.
4) Squats: Think about picking up your kids or lifting heavy groceries, sitting in a chair and standing up or hovering over a public toilet. They’re all squats.Engage your abs, which will stabilize your low back and help prevent back pain.
Push your bottom back, hinging at the hips first, then bend your knees to lower toward the floor. Allow your knees to travel forward. It’s OK if they move past your toes, but don’t go too far — your torso and lower leg should be parallel.
Lower as far as you can without compromising this alignment, making sure the arches of your feet don’t collapse inward.
5) Jumping Jacks/ Jump Rope: This old-school move gets your heart pumping and you panting. That’s exactly why you should do them!
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